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Gay Marriages?

It seems just about right to send a little of my opinion somewhere. Everyone else is doing it and I’m beginning to get just a little fed up with all the hype about gay marriage. 

Last time I checked, wasn’t the word GAY, translated into HAPPY? This may be just me, and my opinion clearly isn’t going to change anything in society, but I need to vent. 

I am sick and tied of government trying to rule our lives. Wasn’t the whole point of being in America to be free? Freedom is what made us. We as Americans, have been through a lot. A lot of changes and a lot of evolution. We have ended the ways of slavery we have encouraged the ways of equality. What seems to be the issue here? We have a lot more issues behind us then ever before, and yet all anyone seems to be worried about is what individuals are doing in there individuals lives. Maybe the reason we don’t have JOBS is because kids keep failing and dropping out of school, therefore not paving the ground for the future. Therefore not providing the best jobs out there. But here is our government worrying about our weight, about who we choose to love. 

Here is what I choose to tell these people that really think they matter in our lives.Image

Fuck you government! 


What I choose to eat, morally and sexually, should be none of your business. Worry about schools, and security and safety for my kids. For OUR future for those that have not been corrupted yet? 

The point of marriage is to be joined in holy matronmony to the person that you love. I do agree that some people are abusing the privilege to get married just because they can, while others who are begging to be able to spend there life with the person they love, cannot do so. 

There is a reason why most religions require you to take months worth of classes prior to getting married, and its simply so you learn that life is not all about you but about the both of you. That is not something that comes off as easy as just moving in with them. The idea of a divorce without TRYING to make the marriage work, should be forbidden. 

I am a girl in love. I am in love with an amazing man who will do anything for me and vice versa. I understand him and he understands me and one day, with God on our side, we will hopefully get married. If he is not the person I marry then at least we will make peace with it, but this is a decision that me and him have made ourselves. IF he was a she and I was in love with a woman, I would love the opportunity to make that decision myself as well. 

I believe that marriage should be made with two people who are devoted to each other in EVERY ASPECT of the word. They should be connected spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally and morally. No person should get married to anyone unless they have all. You will not, cannot grow as individuals unless there is a partner with you growing with you. If your partner holds you back, you hold yourself back too. Whether your partner is a male or female, love sees no color. It is your heart that feels it. Therefore, I support GAY marriage because I will always stand by the side that makes you HAPPY!! 

A marriage, as long as it’s a HAPPY marriage, will always have my support. 


With lots of Love and Blessings

Vanesa ❤



Adam and Steve

I know I’ve done it, as have many parents.

We wait 9 long months for our child to be born. We hold

them in our arms, and assume what their personality is like when they are older. We assume, “oh he’s dancing to my favorite artist, he’s definitely going to be a musician.””Look at the way he holds a pencil and can already tell colors, look how perfect his lines are. He’s going to be an artist.”

We’ve all done it. And I’ve played victim to that. Then my niece was born. By now its no surprise that me and my husband are having problems at home. When my niece was born of course we (by we I mean “I”) had baby fever. My sister had posted on facebook saying that my brother-in-law wanted their daughter to be a daddy’s girl. And we went back and forth saying stupidness about all the kids involved. Including my son, their nephew.

I want a momma’s boy. I do! But than I worry that he’ll be a little pansy in school, get picked on etc. But then as he grows up and hangs out with daddy a little more, he’ll start to see that daddy is cooler then mommy, and he’ll forget about me.

For some reason I have predetermined that me and my husband will only have boys (even though he wants his daddy’s girl too) so I’ve created this scenario on my sister’s facebook status, that my 2nd boy will be gay. So we’ll have the best of both world. He won’t be into sports (yay me) but he’ll be into shopping (yay me) he’ll dress very metrosexual (yay daddy) and still pee standing up (yay daddy).

It was a joke! I hope you realize this!

Apparently my mom doesn’t get it. I’m not saying I want my child to be gay, but if he/she so happens to be, then what am I going to do? Love them any less? I’ve ask my mom, would you love your grandkids any less if you knew they were gay? No you wouldn’t. Why would I?

We live in a world, where kids have been bullied to the point of them feeling the need to take their own life. Why? Maybe because not only did they not feel accepted in school, but at home either? In a perfect world, everyone would get along, but unfortunately, we live in an imperfect world. This shit doesn’t happen.

And I pointed this out to me mom, “if your grandson found out he was gay at age 13, would you abandon him? Or would you rather he be able to talk to you, and know that you have his support no matter which way he swung.” Her response, “it is your job as his mother to teach him the right way.” She was of course referring to the whole “Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve” term. And I came back with, “the reason being ‘gay’ is frowned upon is because they feel that the reason a man and a woman are to be together is to reproduce. Make more offsprings. Nowadays, there are 16 year old GIRLS who are having babies and throwing them in the dumpster because they don’t want them, but there is a happy GAY couple, that wants to have children, but don’t have the means to have them themselves. Why do gay people need to be able to ‘reproduce’ when people who have that right, abuse it?” And of course, she just stood shut. This all started as a not so serious conversation between my mother, father and myself. And my father took his daughter’s side. My mother may look young, but she has her old fashion moments.

I stand by what I said. I’m not gay. I will never say that I am, because that’s not who I am. But their is nothing wrong with being who you are. I want to be somebody that my son can feel he can talk to. I know there are people who are afraid to come out because the reaction there parents/family/friends will have. But not me, I will love my son no matter what.

Yes, I’d prefer biological grandkids, but any means to an extended family is always my preference. 🙂

Until Next Time


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