Posts tagged ‘happy’

Gay Marriages?

It seems just about right to send a little of my opinion somewhere. Everyone else is doing it and I’m beginning to get just a little fed up with all the hype about gay marriage. 

Last time I checked, wasn’t the word GAY, translated into HAPPY? This may be just me, and my opinion clearly isn’t going to change anything in society, but I need to vent. 

I am sick and tied of government trying to rule our lives. Wasn’t the whole point of being in America to be free? Freedom is what made us. We as Americans, have been through a lot. A lot of changes and a lot of evolution. We have ended the ways of slavery we have encouraged the ways of equality. What seems to be the issue here? We have a lot more issues behind us then ever before, and yet all anyone seems to be worried about is what individuals are doing in there individuals lives. Maybe the reason we don’t have JOBS is because kids keep failing and dropping out of school, therefore not paving the ground for the future. Therefore not providing the best jobs out there. But here is our government worrying about our weight, about who we choose to love. 

Here is what I choose to tell these people that really think they matter in our lives.Image

Fuck you government! 

 

What I choose to eat, morally and sexually, should be none of your business. Worry about schools, and security and safety for my kids. For OUR future for those that have not been corrupted yet? 

The point of marriage is to be joined in holy matronmony to the person that you love. I do agree that some people are abusing the privilege to get married just because they can, while others who are begging to be able to spend there life with the person they love, cannot do so. 

There is a reason why most religions require you to take months worth of classes prior to getting married, and its simply so you learn that life is not all about you but about the both of you. That is not something that comes off as easy as just moving in with them. The idea of a divorce without TRYING to make the marriage work, should be forbidden. 

I am a girl in love. I am in love with an amazing man who will do anything for me and vice versa. I understand him and he understands me and one day, with God on our side, we will hopefully get married. If he is not the person I marry then at least we will make peace with it, but this is a decision that me and him have made ourselves. IF he was a she and I was in love with a woman, I would love the opportunity to make that decision myself as well. 

I believe that marriage should be made with two people who are devoted to each other in EVERY ASPECT of the word. They should be connected spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally and morally. No person should get married to anyone unless they have all. You will not, cannot grow as individuals unless there is a partner with you growing with you. If your partner holds you back, you hold yourself back too. Whether your partner is a male or female, love sees no color. It is your heart that feels it. Therefore, I support GAY marriage because I will always stand by the side that makes you HAPPY!! 

A marriage, as long as it’s a HAPPY marriage, will always have my support. 

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With lots of Love and Blessings

Vanesa ❤

 

My 3 Year Old

I can proudly announce to the world, that I have a beautiful 3-year-old “big” boy.

When I was first pregnant, I signed up for this site that allowed me to track my pregnancy. And it even followed me thru his first few weeks, to months, to now even years.

This week, I got an email labeled “My 3 Year Old; Handling Bed-Wetting” so this is a tough subject for me to hit, because my son does wet the bed.

When my son was still living in ONE house, he never wet the bed, we used to put diapers on him just in case, and he would always wake up with a dry diaper, to the point that we stopped putting them on him, and his bed would remain dry. When I moved out and I bought him with me, his bed would still remain dry, and I was so proud of him. But it seems that me and my [ex] husband seem to be arguing more NOW than when we were together. We really try not to, but I think because we KNOW each other so well (5 years of being together) we really know the right buttons to press to piss each other off. And the more and more that me and my son’s father argue, the more and more my son seems to wet his diaper (bed).

In the email, it said,

No one knows exactly what causes bed-wetting. Sometimes physical traits are a factor …Emotional changes may also trigger bed-wetting. If your child starts having accidents after months of dry nights, it could be that (s)he’s facing new stresses or fears.”

Uhmm,…what a blow to my ego that put me in. My son is not used to me and his father arguing all the time. In fact, he is used to us acting all lovey dovey around each other, even when we used to argue, we did it out of love; for all of that to be turned upside down on him? It’s only been 3 months, and 3 months is not a long enough time to understand that we’re not together anymore. It is not long enough when it took him 3 years to learn not to pee on himself. So it’s no wonder that he’s been wetting his diaper(bed).

We’re trying so hard to not fight in front of our son, but I’m sure he sees it. I am happy when I wake up and see him, than I talk to his father and my mood falls all the way down, and I try to act like I’m in a good mood, but my son knows me. I mean, come on, my son is the one person in my life who has ever been THAT close to my heart. He was inches away from my heart, he went to sleep to my heart beat, he followed the sound of my breathing; so of course he knows when I’m hurting or in pain. And of course, my emotional distress is causing my son to have emotional distress to.

Part of me understands why couples decide to “stay together for the kids” because it does take a toll on them too, but I know that my son wants to see the both of us happy. And while his father made me happy once, and will probably make me happy later in the future, I need my space right now. I will always love him but this love/hate relationship is really taking a toll on my kid 😦

Until Next Time

NH<3

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